When is it time to let go of the past? I am speaking of those items that represent the past, and not necessarily in a good or bad way. It could be either.
My first husband, Paul, died of cancer over 14 years ago at the age of 40. His legacy, aside from our son, was his treasured music collection – LPs for the most part. When I relocated from our marital property into my current home after he passed away, I transported the large collection and for the past 14 years, they have been stored in my storage room. They were stored in a way that was unobtrusive and so they sat, well preserved.
At first I thought I would hold onto them because, not only did they represent a direct emotional connection to my late husband, but that they would increase in value. Besides his passion for music, it was one of the reasons he kept such a collection. I was carrying on his wishes. Also, knowing they were with me in my home made me feel that a part of him was always with me.
I married again in 2002 and accumulated items with my second husband until we separated in 2009. We traveled, we spent holidays with our combined family and when we split up, some of the items from our past remained.
This year I turned 50 and my divorce was finalized. I have spent a great deal of time evaluating where I have been, where I am now and where I want to be in the future. The “stuff” is no longer a part of the picture. I am ready to let go of the past.
I am selling the large music collection and going through my home, room by room, and getting rid of the things that remind me of my failed second marriage. It’s time. I want to focus on who I am today and what that represents to me. The sad memories and the “stuff” associated with it no longer belong in my life. The music collection no longer holds that emotional connection to Paul. The wedding presents from my second marriage no longer evoke fond memories.
Letting go of the past can be very healing in a lot of ways and one of the ways is by getting rid of the “clutter”. I believe that you should only hold onto the good memories and you can do it with a lot less “stuff”.
So, what things are you holding on to that evoke sad or bad memories of your past? Perhaps its time to let them go.
Audrey Cupo is a full-time Professional Organizer and sole proprietor of A BETTER SPACE based in Bucks County, PA. She specializes in residential organizing and focuses her business on helping busy moms and women entrepreneurs get organized with her in-home services and her own U Can Do It information product line. Audrey also enjoys writing and public speaking on the topic of residential organizing. As of January 2012, Audrey is also a Managing Consultant for Clever Container, an organizing product company. Get your FREE “U Can Do It Room By Room Organizing Checklist” by visiting www.4abetterspace.com